Everything great that has ever happened in this world began with a small action. It was followed by another and then another and then another. For the most part, that's just how we get things done as human beings.
Unfu*k Yourself 2023 Day-to-Day Calendar: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life. February 8
Look, your problem is not a fear of failure itself, but a fear of being seen to fail.
Unfu*k Yourself 2023 Day-to-Day Calendar: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life. January 28/29
I’ve given you seven personal assertions.
Each of them plays into a theme. You may not immediately see it, but it’s there.
If you want your life to be different, you have to make it happen. All of the thinking or meditating or planning or anti-anxiety medication in the world isn’t going to improve your life if you’re not willing to go out and take action and make changes. You can’t sit around waiting for the right mood to strike or for life to play out the way you want it to. Nor can you rely on positive thinking alone to transform things for the better. You have to go out and do.
Gary John Bishop
Unfu*k Yourself: Get out of your head and into your life by Gary John Bishop. Harper One. 2017. p.191, 192
The world revolves around change. Birth and death, growth and destruction, rise and fall, summer and winter. It’s never the same from one day to another no matter how much it might seem that it is.
“No man ever steps in the same river twice…” – Heraclitus
Our minds would love to predict and plan for everything that’s going to happen. But it’s simply not possible. And these expectations not only have a negative effect on our emotional state, they actually leave us less powerful than we really could be.
It’s so much more effective to simply take things as they present themselves, to live in the moment (like there’s another moment you could live in), and solve issues and items as they arise, than to constantly expect.
It’s not that I’m anti-planning (I most certainly am not), but the stone-cold attachment to the plan (and all the expectation therein) is a little like falling out of a rowboat and continuing to row even through you have no oars and no boat under you anymore. Your plan (and image) of how this should have gone is no longer relevant but you still struggle to reconcile the space between your expectations and reality.
Life can be like that at times. On some occasions you have to realize that the game has changed (sometimes dramatically so) and you need to pivot. Deal with your reality.
Wake up, you’re in the water. Stop waving your arms about and paddle to shore, dammit!
Gary John Bishop
Unfu*k Yourself: Get out of your head and into your life by Gary John Bishop. Harper One. 2017. p.175. 176
It’s all about action. Going out there, doing it, and taking all your negative bullshit along for the ride. It’s never going to get any better, any easier, or any more understandable. This is it, life is now and you’re never going to have a better moment than this.
Don’t know what to do or where to start? Good, that’s your first action. Find out, understand. Trawl the internet, read books, ask questions, take courses, seek advice, do whatever you need to do to unfu*k yourself and get into your life…
“Action may not bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.” – Benjamin Disraeli
Gary John Bishop
Unfu*k Yourself: Get out of your head and into your life by Gary John Bishop. Harper One. 2017. p.135
