A little knowledge can be a dangerous thing. You can use this material to blame just as well as you can use anything else. Merely knowing the material doesn't get you out of the box. Living it does. And we're not living it if we're using it to diagnose others. Rather, we're living it when we're using it to learn how we can be more helpful to others...
Knowing the material
- Self-betrayal leads to self-deception and "the box."
- When you're in the box, you can't focus on results.
- Your influence and success will depend on being out of the box.
- You get out of the box as you cease resisting other people.
Living the material
- Don't try to be perfect. Do try to be better.
- Don't use the vocabulary - "the box," and so on - with people who don't already know it. Do use the principles in your own life.
- Don't look for others' boxes. Do look for your own.
- Don't accuse others of being in the box. Do try to stay out of the box yourself.
- Don't give up on yourself when you discover you've been in the box. Do keep trying.
- Don't deny you've been in the box when you have been. Do apologize, then just keep marching forward, trying to be more helpful to others in the future.
- Don't focus on what others are doing wrong. Do focus on what you can do right to help.
- Don't worry whether others are helping you. Do worry whether you are helping others.
Leadership and Self-deception: Getting Out of the Box by Arbinger Institute. Berrett-Koehler. 2002. p.165,166
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